tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post7777819436616480380..comments2023-06-12T04:22:39.996-07:00Comments on Ahead of the Wave: Something in my purse.....Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-75332282355202530112009-04-01T20:44:00.000-07:002009-04-01T20:44:00.000-07:00Kate,I see the slip of paper your parents gave you...Kate,<BR/><BR/>I see the slip of paper your parents gave you as a beautiful gift. This is tangible proof that they tried to do all they could (when they were younger and still could) to ease what they expected would one day be a difficult job for you. It is validation that they saw you as a responsible adult who could tend to the most difficult of tasks. They entrusted you, Kate.<BR/><BR/>Modern life has taken away many of the rituals and much of the intimacy of dealing with death, and it's added layers of complicated paperwork. We've done the same thing for our children.<BR/><BR/>For me, the issue is not that they gave you instructions, but that you keep it in your wallet. If it makes you feel your parents' love -- if it helps you hold on to your memories of them as responsible and independent parents, then keep it in your wallet. If the paper weighs you down with dread or grief, may I suggest you keep it at home in a lockbox? If you must, you can make a copy to keep with you when you travel. <BR/><BR/>with hope, WendyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-73766751878682189872009-04-01T19:43:00.000-07:002009-04-01T19:43:00.000-07:00It sounds like this piece of paper weighs heavily ...It sounds like this piece of paper weighs heavily on your mind. You will have it when you need it. Until then you can keep it folded and "put away."Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448211798237937246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-49173950701475434712009-04-01T18:42:00.000-07:002009-04-01T18:42:00.000-07:00P.S. Tell MM I love Purse Stories!P.S. Tell MM I love Purse Stories!Brenda Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11205370445553406208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-14010207941791329502009-04-01T18:40:00.000-07:002009-04-01T18:40:00.000-07:00I think that this is a very difficult thing for al...I think that this is a very difficult thing for all of us to think about our parents doing, or ourselves doing for those we will leave behind, but it is such an important thing to do. It will make things so much less complcated when that day arrives. My dad has done the same. We're in the process of doing it for Sted since she can no longer make that kind of decision. Thank you for sharing.Brenda Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11205370445553406208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-88232725648132900522009-04-01T11:28:00.000-07:002009-04-01T11:28:00.000-07:00This is in case you pass away? How depressing!This is in case you pass away? How depressing!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03354978428716379029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-28855888239637719292009-03-31T21:06:00.000-07:002009-03-31T21:06:00.000-07:00This was hard to read, Kate. But, achingly well wr...This was hard to read, Kate. But, achingly well written.JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-667284174716376085.post-67565971608324214682009-03-31T18:57:00.000-07:002009-03-31T18:57:00.000-07:00That's powerful.It'd be hard for me to carry in my...That's powerful.<BR/><BR/>It'd be hard for me to carry in my wallet, but I know it's necessary.<BR/><BR/>I found out the hard way when a dear, dear elderly friend passed away recently and nobody knew what to do.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for playing and I loved your submission.San Diego Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12624915698900874371noreply@blogger.com