Book Update

Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet: A Novel

I really enjoyed this book by Jamie Ford. Not only a tender, moving love story, the events unfold in Seattle during an important and historic time, the early years of W.W. II, when many Japanese Americans were moved into internment camps as a government mandated "precautionary measure".  Henry is a young Chinese American who forges a friendship with a young Japanese American girl named Keiko much to the dismay of his father who views all Japanese as "the enemy", especially during wartime. Henry's coming of age, his affection and loyalty to his new friend Keiko, the budding musical scene in Seattle (jazz) and the perspective of Henry 40 years later as he looks back at his life and the choices he's made make for an entertaining read.

I actually listened to the audio version of this book to and from work and the frequent drives north to visit Mom and Dad.  Highly recommended for reading or listening!

Of Haircuts and Shrek-Colored Nail Polish

At the salon (said rather tongue in cheek as the place I frequent for a haircut is anything but fancy) today I not only got my usual short cut short(er) than I like but happened upon a display of  new O.P.I. Nail colors at the check out counter. Oh my.  I thought immediately of my sister. Why? 

She loves (as do I) this marvelous shade of yellow-green better known as chartreuse. I can't recall coming across quite this shade of luscious chartreuse in a nail polish in the past. I was tempted to buy this small bottle of perfection on sight. What a perfect summer color for toes peaking out of great summer sandals. She has several great pairs.

I don't give a hoot about Shrek but I surely do like this color called Who the Shrek Are You?  So, apparently, does Michelle at All Lacquered Up who posted all the featured colors from the Shrek palette.She wrote a followup post comparing the Shrek series colors nail to nail with a few other brands. Very sweet.

So, while I'm mourning (briefly...the difference between too short and just right on a hair cut is about a week), I'll think about buying this chartreuse green for the next pedicure.

Blog Fodder

Today in the dentist's office, the very lovely dental hygienist who I've seen for years asked me if I was planning any vacations this summer.  Having just returned from a trip to Hawaii, she shared with me her visit to the (former) leper colony on Molokai Island. I have to admit, if I was ever aware of this factoid, I've long since forgotten. Fascinating; a topic worthy of a google search to get up to speed.

My response was to say, "Yes, I'm going to a blogging conference in New York City. I'm a blogger."

Usually I'm not so forthright about my blogging interests but this seemed right, somehow. It almost felt weird to admit that I AM A BLOGGER but I suppose that's the truth.

She was interested but said she knew nothing about blogging and barely uses email, preferring instead to use the phone. I think there are (still) a lot of folks just like her who are totally floored by the entire concept of writing a blog and reading blogs of others.

I told her I write a "life blog" posting on whatever is going on and and seems "right" at the time. I could sense the wheels turning and truth be told my wheels were turning too....what would become blog fodder for today?

By late morning, I had a number of potential ideas brewing:
1. the leper colony on Molokai
2. the re-design of my web site (new template, photo, and colors); Like it?
3. the bloggers , the non-bloggers,  the blog readers, and the non-blog readers (got that?)
4. the rare privilege of teaching my 24 year old son something new today. (I'll save that for tomorrow perhaps)

It doesn't take much to pull something out of the air; a potential post comes from seemingly trivial moments in my day. All it takes is a spark of inspiration.

After messing endlessly with my blog layout today, I'm weary. The technical stuff is OK but the frustrated writer in me would much rather find that small kernel of a topic and pull words out of the squash and on to the screen. One after the next.

Ever satisfying.

Priceless

photo taken in better days, summer 2007

Most nights after we finish with a loose ended, makes-no-real-sense conversation, I still get to hear those magical last words come from her mouth. "Good night, darling".

I will miss her so much when she's gone. Mom, I will always love you.

I Can't Fix It, But I Keep Trying

When I visited my parents today, I brought a chocolate shake for Dad and a small order of french fries (from McDonald's of course) for Mom. I also bought a small diet Coke for myself going through the drive through line. I should have ordered a large; turns out all drinks are only a buck no matter the size but I didn't realize that until after I placed the order. Oh, well. That's not the point of this post.

Dad enjoyed his shake although he only drank half and asked me to put the rest in the small refrigerator in his room. Mom went right after the fries but seemed vacant, as if she was off in another world. Her thoughts, when vocalized, make little sense. She starts in on one topic and finishes with another.

My treats beat out the mid afternoon snack served by the caregivers so I ended up eating Dad's cup of diced pineapple and half of Mom's since they were "too full" from the stuff I brought. So much for my plan to just have a diet Coke this afternoon.

This evening, Mom called my home phone with the help of a caregiver. Distraught. She wanted to "see me" and wouldn't divulge the nature of her concerns over the phone. "I can't", she kept saying. It breaks my heart when her demented confusion translates into anxiety and near panic. I was told she barely slept last night. Over tired and bewildered tonight, I hope she can get some rest but I doubt it. Even if I did jump in the car to see her, it wouldn't make any difference. And so, I do nothing except sit here and think about how unhappy she seems in her world and how helpless I feel as witness to her anguish.

There's nothing I can do to fix this problem. No amount of French fries, chocolates, frequent visits, small jokes, hugs and kisses will get to the root. I feel sad. I feel I've lost her. Whenever I can (still) get her to say in response to my "I love you, Mom" a "I love you too" in return, the pain in my heart eases briefly. But, the sadness always comes back. Why can't I do something to make this better for her? (and for me?)

Dementia steals our loved ones. Cruel and insidious, I end up saying my goodbyes to her over and over again.

"Ma'am, You're Using Your Card to Buy Petza"

I love the idea of a debit card for expenses related to health care; co-pays, prescriptions, physician bills, hospital bills. A convenient way to use pre-tax dollars to pay for medical expenses, I put aside monies into the "Health Care Account" at the start of the calendar year and off I go. My only wish about halfway through the year is that I'd allocated more money into the fund as I always seem to use it up too quickly.

The companies that take on the job of monitoring these accounts, WageWorks is just one of many, must be scrutinized closely by the Feds. Clients in no way, shape, or form may use these funds for purchases/bills not related to health care. I get this. Totally. These are pre-tax dollars that go in to the fund. Oversight is critical in order to avoid fraudulent usage.

However....my hackles go up when all of a sudden my card is frozen and no amount of inquiry gets me anywhere. I still have dollars to use for payment of legitimate expenses but have no way to do so. After accessing the ubiquitous phone tree and the most annoying phrase of all time, "Your call may be monitored for quality assurance or training purposes" (How many times do we have to hear this in our collective lifetimes?, Who the hell cares if I'm being recorded? Do they think I'll mind my tongue if they admonish me up front?), I finally end up talking to a customer care representative.

Curiously, the four times I've called I've had a different answer as to what is going on with my account. Curiously, the person on the other end of the line sounds the same each time. English is not his first language. That's OK with me as long as we can communicate properly, my problem gets solved and I'm not left with the feeling that he really has no clue what's happening with the account.

The first time I called he tells me, "Your card will be reactivated after midnight tonight."

The second time I called he tells me, "It takes time, Ma'am. Sometimes it takes up to 72 hours to reactivate your card."

The third time I called he starts in on some insanity about how I had not submitted the proper receipts for purchases from a mail order pharmacy (C'mon, the beauty of this card is bypassing the need for receipts; if used at a pharmacy for prescription meds, it's a legit use of the card!). I asked for his supervisor at that point and found her to be much more helpful; acknowledging my frustration and actually taking the time to research the issue instead of spouting off about what I needed to do. She told me she would put in an investigation order and someone would get back with me with 48 hours about my card.

Disappointing....nothing happened. My card was still dead plastic.

The fourth time I called, the same guy (yikes! Do they only have one customer service rep?) recites the same story about lack of proper receipts and documentation. When I tell him "NO WAY", he pulls out the big gun.

"Ma'am, the problem is, it seems you've been buying petza with your card."

large pause....

I knew exactly what he meant by petza but I couldn't help but asking him what in the world he was talking about.

"Petza, ma'am, you used the card to buy petza."

The last time I bought pizza with a credit card was months ago and I've my Visa bill to prove it.

I gave up at that point and wrote a letter to their customer service department. Guess what? I still have a dead card and no response.

Anyone want to come over to share some great petza with me?

Had to Buy a JawBone

Earlier this month, state law in Washington changed with regard to cell phone usage while driving. Get caught driving and texting and you'll be pulled over and fined. Get caught driving and using a cell phone without a hand's free device and you'll be pulled over and fined. $124 per offense. I'm all for the new law. Driving is hard enough without all the distractions inherent to cell phones, not to mention the radio, chit chatting with passengers, and (god forbid) stuffing our mouths with a meal on the road.

Denny bought me the perfect hand's free device last weekend and the name is delightful: JawBone. This is a word I use constantly in my everyday vocabulary; truly. Never used in the context of facial anatomy but as a verb, "to jawbone". I'm not exactly sure where it comes from. Wikipedia and Dictionary.com have no description of the word used as a verb except in the context of persuasion.

"The President jawboned the steel industry in to postponing price increases."

In my personal (weird) dictionary, to jawbone (often shortened to jaw) means to talk excessively, going on and on and on, embellishing. Sometimes good, sometimes annoying, the context will tell all.

But when I admit that I "got jawboned", I've been talked to death by someone over eager to tell me how the clock works when all I asked was for the time. LOL.