At that sacred moment of her death, my Dad was in the living room at the home, I was en route, driving and my sister not far behind me in her car. The lovely person in attendance with Mom at the very moment of her last breath was Yerusalem, a very dear and loving caregiver. I'm so glad it was she who was in attendance. I so wanted to be there, holding Mom's hand. I will regret always ignoring my instinct to stay the night and coming on home to sleep. These are things that can never be undone.
Today on my drive to work, drops of rain fell from grey skies. Temperatures were in the low 50's. I thought about Mom and all of life that has been lived since her passing. I longed for her presence here and now. I longed for her advice, her wisdom; especially now when there is so much about my life's plan that has been upended.
I figure I will always miss her. Mom missed her mother decades after her death. This may be a loss from which we never fully recover.
I agree. I lost my mother 33 years ago and I still think about her. I missed having her see my children born and raised. I still miss her, but the pain is not as sharp as it was in the beginning. Sometimes it bothers me that I can't remember how her voice sounded. I wish I had a tape of her speaking. I had a dream about her a little while back. I was at a party in our old house from childhood back in Tennessee. We were all having a good time and I looked up and saw her walking down the staircase. I remember thinking, "Wow! Isn't it nice that Mom came to this party!" When I woke up, I felt so happy and contented all day. I don't think we are ever ready to lose our mothers.
ReplyDeleteI think about both of your parents often, and I was thinking about them today when I was visiting with my own parents. I love this photo of your mother. Two years--wow. I know from my mom and her mom that losing a mother really is a "loss from which we never fully recover."
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