Thursday, November 5, 2009
Why Do Some People Cry at Weddings?
Weddings are on my mind of late; must have something to do with the upcoming nuptials in California in let's say, about 9 days. Yikes!
Among other tasks, it's time to get prepared for the inevitable (or perhaps not?) uncontrollable flow of tears. Actually, I have no idea how I'll react. At my own wedding, there were no tears, not even close. But now, put me in the midst of wedding guests sitting in witness of the grand event and the outcome is vastly different. All I need to hear is the first few notes of the processional for the bridesmaids and I'm a lost cause. Truly. And, once the bride starts down the aisle I'm off the deep end, awash in an uncontrollable flood.
What's totally dumb is that I never learn my lesson. I continue to show up at weddings with nary a tissue in sight or at best, one wimpy little sheet stuffed into a teeny, tiny clutch between the lipstick and the cell phone. Needless to say, by mid service, I look like I've been crying for a week and the tears keep welling up. From where? What's the source of this never ending fountain?
Which brings me to the "why" of this situation. Why do weddings make some people cry? In the midst of my silent wedding wails, I haven't a clue why I'm reacting this way. Tears of joy? Happiness? Salutation to love? The start of a new journey of commitment one to another? I'd really like to know.
What I do know is that this time around, I'm showing up prepared. Even if I have to slip the entire box of tissues into the "parents of the groom" pew ahead of time, I will not be caught without. And I'd best go light on the makeup too. But, who knows....I may not cry at all. Fat chance.